|The Kid and I enjoying the Plymouth Ice Festival|
Different people will apply different meanings to the same word. The word ugly is a perfect example. In my family, ugly describes negative behavior but, as a kid, I interpreted the word as the negative of physical beauty. The result was a inadvertant lowering of my self-esteem.
Tone is also key to ensuring words are efficacious. Kind words said with venom are interpreted very differently than venomous words said with a kind tone.
As a result, I have tried to be careful about the words I use with The Kid. For example, I want the word, "no," to mean something when I say it, so I try not to use it often.
I have also tried to remain conscious of the tone of voice I use with The Kid. For someone who uses sarcasm incessantly, this has been a large undertaking. Thankfully, my desire to make sure this child has the best chance to live a healthy, happy, productive life usually wins.
To soothe The Kid when she would visit, I would try singing softly too her and it seemed to help most days. I find myself singing to her when we walk, after we read, when riding on the elevator of our building or while I'm changing her diaper as a way to express my love to her. I'm sharing a short recording of what I usually sing because I hope that someday she reads this an begins to understand just how special she is to her Papa.